Posted on August 3, 2014
Acceptance literally means, “To take what is offered”. But this doesn’t mean “putting up with it”. Unfortunately, many people seem to think of acceptance this way – that to accept means succumbing to your pain, giving in, doing nothing, or wallowing. However, this is passive acceptance, and is ultimately unhelpful because it keeps you stuck in an unworkable pattern of letting your thoughts and feelings (something you can’t control) guide your actions (something you can control). Mindful acceptance is different. It is an active, fully conscious, softer stance toward your mind and body and your life experiences. It simply involves noticing what you think and feel and allowing those thoughts and feelings to be there. It doesn’t mean liking or agreeing with them. It is compassion in action, and with that, you cultivate your capacity to meet the hardness of your judgemental mind and emotional hurts with softness and gentleness. Furthermore, when you do that, you also weaken the tug and power of your judgemental mind to get you hooked by your anxieties, fears, shame, hurts, anger, or remorse – all the sticky negative energy that can pull you out of your life and keep you stuck.
It’s very easy for all of us to run through life mindlessly, on autopilot. We live a good portion of our lives in our heads – interpreting, evaluating, and judging ourselves, the past and future, others, and our world. Our minds are constantly adding unnecessary baggage to our experiences, creating a subjective illusion of reality that simply isn’t so. This is where mindful acceptance can make a real difference. It will help you learn to recognise the mind game for what it really is – a substitute reality, not reality itself. Mindful acceptance will put you in fuller and more open and honest contact with everything you experience, so that you can learn to see things more clearly, gain perspective, and distinguish between when your mind serves you well and when it doesn’t, so that you’ll be free to make more informed choices about how to act instead of mindlessly responding in the same old unworkable ways.
Mindful acceptance is a powerful way to get unstuck, unhooked, and moving forward. So if you think that it might be a helpful skill set to keep you from getting hooked by your judgemental mind, contact your local Brisbane City Psychologist, Felicity Farmer, on 1300 484 711 or firstname.lastname@example.org and arrange an appointment today.Back to Blog
“The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are”
- Joseph Campbell